Does a woman having a hysterectomy change how a man enjoys sex with her? Is the pleasure any better or worse for him? Or does anything change with the amount of pleasure he has? I am on hormone replacement so I don't need added help with anything like K-Y. The only thing that changed for me is the fact I don't have a monthly anymore. My enjoyment is better than ever. I've asked him why we don't have sex anymore and he blames it on my back pain. HA! That hasn't changed either. Please don't tell me he is being unfaithful either. I KNOW that isn't so. Please don't ask how I know that.
Our sex life was what most men have to pay for. There wasn't anything I wouldn't try once. When we were in bed it was like I was Jekyll and Hyde when I was out.
The only other thing that changed about the same time was he found out I had been sexually abused as a child by my father. Does he find me repulsive now? Does he look at me like I'm damaged goods? Of course when I asked him, he said I was being ridiculous. He tells me he loves me and shows it in other ways.
Other than this one thing, we have an ideal marriage. He buys me anything I want and spoils me like crazy.

Have you asked him these things? at all? Maybe you just need to sit down and talk to him and ask him what's going on. Communication is the key to finding out answers sometimes.

I wish you luck!

I'm not on hormone replacement and have never had to use any "outside" lubricants. I have a problem with keeping horses (mares) tethered inside stalls where they can't even turn around in and artificially inseminated and kept pregnant until they actually die giving birth. I have a problem with the foals of these poor mares being slaughtered and use for everything from tennis shoes to pet food just so there can be hormonal replacement, that actually CAN be manufactured artificially but thanks to the Government isn't on the market.

Anyway, if you want to know what your husband's problem is you are going to have to ask HIM.

Talk with him .Maybe after what you went thru as a child and your hysterctomy he's afraid he might hurt you.Hugs to you and I wish you the best of luck.

How long since you had it? It's your vaginal walls that make sex pleasurable for your man, not the baby making gear.
I had my final checkup yesterday and was given the all clear for sex.... only to get home and have him not want to hurt me. I was in tears because i felt it was me and he had lost interest but he sat me down to tell me that up until a week ago he has watched me cry almost everyday from pain and he can't just let it go at the click of his fingers. For weeks he couldn't cuddle me in bed and that drove him mad, where i had my right ovary out gave me so much pain and grief and it was him who got up every few hrs for a pain pill, him who watched me suffer a bad infection, him who tried to make it all better with a kiss and him who could barely stand seeing me like it. I looked at it from his side and i can TOTALLY see where he is coming from. Ive decided to prove myself "fit" and spent the morning in the rain chopping wood... i don't care what it takes, ill do it! Talk to him, find out what is going on, maybe he just needs to feel that you are all better, like my twit : ) Good luck!