I asked a similar question awhile ago but I have a new question, preferably answered by someone who has experienced this. My girlfriend had cervical cancer this summer and had to get the treatments to get it taken care of. She did not get a hysterectomy just the scrape or whatever it is called. Since then she does not want to have sex anymore. She recently talked to her doctor about this and he said it is probably permanent that is a side affect of the procedures she went through. I was wondering if any girls out there or guys have been through the same thing can give me some advice on this I'm at the end of my rope. I like this girl a lot we've been dating for almost a year but we are young in our early 20s. Will this turn around? Will she get it back? If I want this to work will I just have to deal with this? If someone could just tell me a personal account of a problem like this I would appreciate it. I need some third person insight on please.

That sounds like what happened to me after I had my kids. It's just that she has been through alot and I think it should pass in time. There is also the pill similar to viagra that may give her a little bit of a boost I'm not sure what it is called but maybe you should tell her to look into it.

its not permanent. at least i dont think it is. i also had the "scrape thing" done almost 5 years ago. It was painful and the doctor ordered no sex for over 2 months. It may be weird for her to think of having sex after she had a procedure like that done. just give her time and i think she will eventually get her sex drive back.

It is probably a psychological phenomenon, and it could be temporary or permanent. Similar to a hysterectomy, she does not feel like a complete woman. Her mind is going through so much about her life as a "damaged" woman, her ability to have children, and even that she fears you may think she is "tainted." This is not something you can fix yourself. It is better left to a therapist. All you can do is continue to love her for who she is. Love is about the person -- not about the sex. Sex is one of the rewards of a loving relationship. If you just treat her like someone you really love, that will help her, but she does need professional help, and your support.

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